Pre-Order to Play ASAP
If you're really into Hideo Kojima games and/or you're really excited about playing Death Stranding, you probably want to start playing ASAP. If that's the case, pre-order a digital copy.
At this point, we aren't expecting a Death Stranding demo or beta. Sony and Kojima could surprise us, but don't hold your breath.
If that's the case, you'll get your first chance to play Death Stranding on November 8th or November 7th if you live in a western time zone.
If you pre-order a digital copy you should be able to pre-load the full game ahead of the release date. Pre-loading will allow you to jump right in when the game goes live at 12AM Eastern.
If you buy a physical copy you won't get your delivery until the morning, afternoon, or night of November 8th.